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Julie Gabrielli's avatar

Thank you for this. The “lone outlier” or “bad apple” story just doesn’t cut it anymore. Not for abuse and not for racist mass killings, like the one in Jacksonville. Americans are woefully undereducated about systems thinking, and most journalists suffer from the same myopia.

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Julie Gabrielli's avatar

I learned about the development psych model “Spiral Dynamics” from Ken Wilber, who made it part of his Integral framework. My take-away from it is that *controlling-father-obedient-child* is a developmental stage that we are meant to grow and evolve out of. Societies that remain stuck in this stage exhibit the sort of pathologies that ours does (and has?).

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Julie Gabrielli's avatar

*developmental psych. Sorry typo

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Jon Tate's Daily Practice's avatar

I'm grateful for your and for A. R. Moxon's willingness to write about patriarchal controller/abuser dynamics.

https://open.substack.com/pub/armoxon/p/the-finger-takers-son?r=jtwjp&utm_medium=ios&utm_campaign=post

I now see patriarchal dominance culture all around me. I grew up in it and lived (in fear) by it for a too long. It was the water I swam in and I couldn't see it for what it is. Writers like bell hooks have ripped back the curtain and offered a useful vocabulary to name the monsters behind it. At 49, I feel like I am finally getting free of of its gravitational pull. It takes work.

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Carrie Kaufman's avatar

It takes work. Keep working. And thank you.

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Richard Careaga's avatar

The Yahweh/Jesus good cop/bad cop routine is the longest running act in a sorry vaudeville circuit.

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